Masks Off


Feminism isn’t a woman’s issue. It’s everyone’s issue. We are living in an unsustainably gendered society, a rape culture, a nation of silent inequality. It’s time for everyone to start talking about it.


Another Winter Break Day of Nothing


Spent a long day of doing almost nothing, and I wanted to make a quick but yummy dinner, so I whipped up some veggie fried rice. And my roommate and I pretty much scarfed it all down in one sitting:


It was super easy:

  • First you need regular steamed rice (I steamed up a cup of uncooked white rice, would vary cook times for brown), and you can totally just use leftovers if you have them.
  • Heat up some cooking oil on medium heat, just enough to coat the bottom of the pan.
  • Toss the rice in the oil, moving it around with your spoon or spatula, for about 2 minutes.
  • Push all of the rice to one side, and on the other, add one whisked egg. Allow to cook and mix into the rice.
  • Add frozen mixed veggies at the end (I just had peas and carrots, so that’s what I used). Mix until everything is cooked through!
  • Serve with soy sauce and/or sesame oil to taste (I didn’t have much of either, so I used the last of my soy sauce, a little peanut oil, and threw in some extra salt, pepper, garlic, and ginger).
  • (Taken from this WikiHow page)

So there was a lot of oil in this, but it’s okay. I’m washing it down with some tea, a blend of white and green with a hint of citrus. It’s so good.

Yummy TeaPlease also take a moment to appreciate how awesome that mug is. I collect them, and am thinking of featuring them one at a time in a weekly post, telling the story behind each one. Thoughts?


My Best Friend’s Wedding


My Best Friend’s Wedding

My two best friends started dating each other in high school. It was like a teenage romantic comedy; they both started texting me around the same time, telling me “I think I like him” and “I think I like her.” Their first kiss was in my driveway. They’re doing the long distance thing right now since he chose a college in Tennessee, but when they get married the Summer right after graduation, I’ll be officiating the wedding. It’s pretty adorable. They love each other, and I’m very happy for them. 

But I have to agree with a lot of things this article that’s been trending on my Facebook and Tumblr is saying. I really worry that both of my friends, but especially Sophie, with whom I’ve been friends since junior high, will miss out on a lot of opportunities and experiences because of their young marriage. She’s been pretty sheltered by her family for most of her life, and she seems to be holding onto a lot of security blankets, avoiding adventure and exploration in college. It seems like the only adventure she seems to ever plan to take is marriage. 

Marriage is a beautiful thing, but there are a lot of things that I think can and should come before that. We all make our own choices, and I will respect theirs, but it’s hard for me not to worry about my friends. I hope they don’t use each other as security blankets. 

Do you know that feeling?


The one where it’s Winter Break and you’re sitting at home doing nothing but Internet surfing and you eat a whole plate of spaghetti and vegetarian meatballs and you’re stuffed, but you really just want to eat another whole plate of said vegetarian meatballs?

Well, I do. And then I did it. And it was great.

And now I’m watching The Office on Netflix and Pam and Jim finally got together and it was magical.

#1 Party School



Party SchoolSo at this moment it is 12:41 in the AM after what started off as a pretty chill Sunday evening. And then, please pardon my french, the shit hit the motherfucking fan.

Some of you may know that the University of Iowa is the country’s #1 Party School, or have heard about Vodka Sam. Now, I absolutely love my school and love being a Hawkeye, and usually when people bring this up, I counter with things like:

Yes, lots of people in Iowa City party hard, but that’s a choice you make, and there are so many other great options for alcohol free fun and culture that lots of students take advantage of. 

Yes, many students at Iowa party frequently, but we’re also ranked with a top ten student-run philanthropy (The University of Iowa Dance Marathon) and have been ranked in the top 5 for student volunteer hours. 

Yes, Iowa Fraternity and Sorority Life can get pretty wild, but many in the Greek community, especially the members of our Multicultural Greek Council (look for my picture on their page!) and my siblings in Gamma Rho Lambda, are working to change what it means to be Greek –without alcohol in the mix. 

And so on, and so forth; you get the picture. But tonight, I have to concede that sometimes my peers here in Iowa City really live up to that reputation. I was relaxing at home, watching nature movies on Netflix with my roommate, enjoying a hot cup of coffee (I will drink coffee at pretty much any hour), and generally having a very chill and lovely evening. Then, the roomie warns me that one of her friends is going to be stopping by; he was drunk and needed a place to come sit for a while and hang out. Let’s not mention that I didn’t even think it strange at the time that he would be out and drunk on a Sunday evening…

So this kid showed up, dropped into our comfiest chair, and after chatting for a while fell asleep (or maybe passed out, in hindsight). A little bit later, he woke up and went rushing to the bathroom. I knew he would throw, and was worried that there might be some clean up, but figured it would be minor, and that my roomie would probably take the brunt of the responsibility since it was her friend. Little did I know…

Not long after this, that inebriated young man came stumbling out of our bathroom, apologizing up a storm, and slurring his words more than a little bit. All I really caught was, ”Your toilet flooded…” before I was on my feet and at the bathroom doorway. What I saw inside was horrifying.

He really meant it when he said FLOOD. The floor was covered in at least an inch of water, and more in some places, with some unmentionable bits floating around, not to mention the splashes of his puke all over the shower curtain, side of the tub, wall, and toilet. We live on the fourth floor, our bathroom has no drain, and we only have Swiffer for mopping. I was terrified we were going to end up flooding the whole freakin’ building… Instead, we put on our rain-boots, soaked up the water with just about every towel we own, bleached the crap of everything, and did a quick couple loads of laundry.

Currently, even though it is -1 degree outside, we have some windows open and fans going to get rid of the bleach and vomit smell. Thank God we have two bathrooms, because I may never use that one again.

Moral of the story? PLEASE DRINK RESPONSIBLY. It’s okay to have fun and loosen up sometimes, you don’t need to pass out, black out, fall over, or vomit all over your friend’s apartment to do that. Have someone sober with you to monitor your intake and make sure you get home okay, and to take care of you if you do go a little overboard. Also, please show some courtesy to your hosts. 🙂

Like I said, I wish this weren’t my second post here and first post with real content, but so it goes. Soon I can fill you in on how awesome my roommate is, how sucky our relationship with our other roommate is, Greek life at Iowa, and all sorts of other things!

Goodnight world,


First Post


Helloooooooo world! It’s mighty fine to see you. Thanks for stopping by!


The above blurry photo is me, and this is my new blog. This isn’t my first venture into the blogging world, but I hope it will be my most successful (one summer I was on a really big healthy living kick and started a blog to record my efforts. I quit writing like I wanted to, and it died).

I’m a Junior this year at the University of Iowa, and I had a really rough time this past semester. With the New Year approaching, and with enough time during the Winter Break to reflect, plan, ponder my existence, yadda yadda, I’ve been thinking that I really want to try to get back into the habit of journaling to help me deal with life and stuff. I’m hoping that if I use the blog format, I’ll be more inclined to keep writing! Plus, I’d love to have a more personal space to share recipes, photos, education-related things, college-related things, queer life-related things, and the like, and have it all compiled in one nicely-organized spot.

And hopefully, someone out there will read it, enjoy it, and maybe get something out of it!

I know this first post has been a ramble, but I hope you’ll come back. I’m setting a small goal for myself to start with at least one post per week focusing on a different topic each time, so there will be plenty of new material coming!

Thanks for reading!